I struggle to post this as at some point not very long ago, Kara’s X had access to her computer. So it is assumable that X also knows about this blog. It is hard though to not post what you know and what you are thinking in the present out of fear of waking the giant or stirring the pot. But you can’t live your life or your blog walking on eggshells either. Fine Line.
In counseling we learned that abusers have a pattern. Every abuser may have a different pattern but a pattern nonetheless. Kara’s X has a few patterns, right before he is about to make waves he becomes quiet. Really quiet. Scary quiet. He becomes agreeable (to some very small degree), harassing emails slow down and it’s like he has a plot in place. The quiet is a good time for prayer and reflection, a good time to store up energy, a good time to brace yourself for the inevitable. Taking advantage of the quiet means not living in fear, rather living in confidence you are doing everything you can to do the right thing.
Do you see predictable patterns with your X? Please share what they are…I would love to hear!