“The root of domestic violence is not anger, or stress, or alcohol or drugs. The root of domestic violence is control. “
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Thank you so much for letting us know about this!
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I have repeatedly said that my ex ‘s drug of choice is control.
Isn’t that funny! Well not really but its funny that you say his drug of choice, I think they ALL have that same “drug”. It is so addicting to them, its almost that they can’t resist it. Try as they might they really do love to control.
And when the kids counselor was trying to say I should not “bad mouth” their dad. I replied,” if he was an alcoholic, I would not be bad mouthing him to say so, just stating facts and now we have to go on and deal with it and my kids could go to Al-on( sp?). His drug is not alcohol, it’s control”
I think there is a huge difference between “bad-mouthing” and addressing what is happening within your home. Make no mistake you probably don’t have to say a word and they are picking up on it. A friend of mine mentioned how the dad explodes in front of her kid. Although we don’t want to have our kids see their dad as anything other than wonderful, sometimes seeing the truth is the most helpful thing that can shape their view of the parent…first hand, without the mother saying a single word.
Yes, exactly. And as I come to understand how wrong his behavior is and how it has colored how my kids perceive things. For example, my daughter was not allowed to say no to him on anything, none of us were, but teaching a young girl that her no means nothing to a man…when the counselor put it that way!!! Light bulb and I made sure her “no’s ” are respected, even having to have the police show up, see the court orders, therapist recommendations and such!! I am polite, not angry and firm. they actually backed me up!
I love that! Our daughter’s “no” does need to mean something! I love that you are teaching her to have a voice! Yeah to you!!! I love hearing they backed you up!